Chuck is an introvert (no secret) and for our 27 years of marriage, I can only count 3 friends that he has considered good friends. I, on the other hand, am an extrovert (big secret) and have always had several circles of friends spinning in my world. I like a lot of friends in my world....some make me laugh, some are younger, some older, some give me great advice, some go back as far as my childhood, one is my sister. There's Bunco, Book Club, neighbors, co-workers, Sunday School, crafting buddies, phone friends, fb and blogger friends.
Chuck is probably one of the nicest people I know. He is really the nicest person I know, but since I live with him, I do see a little bit of his stubborn side...so take a few points away for that. Everybody likes Chuck. And Chuck likes everybody. But he doesn't really have friends outside of work friends. Except those "3" I mentioned earlier...from the past.
A few years ago, I told Chuck he needed a hobby so he could make friends outside of work. Like golf, softball, church activities. You know what he came up with? Coin collecting. yep.
Coin collecting does not require any conversation or leaving the house. Does that speak volumes about how Chuck feels about socializing outside of work?
Then a while back, I asked Chuck who his friends are. (People, I have to work hard at conversations with quiet Chuck...I've already asked favorite food, favorite color, favorite book.) Chuck thought a minute and said a couple of names of co-workers then added John. John works for another company who partners with Chuck's company on a project. He actually lives in Chicago and commutes to Houston for the work week.....each week....and has for the last 5 years.
Well, John is leaving the project and moving on to a new one in a different city. Chuck's good friend John will be missed. Not just by Chuck, but by me.....who liked knowing that Chuck had a good friend.
The last 10 days have been about saying goodbye to John at work. A going away party at work, and two different dinners out this week. I told Chuck he should take his picture with John before he left....so last night at dinner, he did.
The worst part about having friends? Saying goodbye.